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hi there, i admire your advocacy. i'm not hiv positive, but spreading information about this here is really a great contribution.

kudos to you!


i'm a social entrepreneur. i help support foundations and organizations thru financial sustainability. maybe we can help your cause. i am currently working on advocacies for LGBT communities in the Philippines.
my name is xxxxxxxxxx, 09XXXXXXXXX. msg me if you want to share ideas. i am just here to learn more about different advocacies in our platform.

matty32

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ok, uhm last year aug 14 me and my bf became official then we had sex on the 17th same month, it was unprotected and on top of that he released it inside, my ex was 2 years younger but in this generation hiv doesn't pic age right? so 1hour after we had sex i started doubting then he saw that i'm taking a medicine, he asked me "whats that?" and i replied that its a medicine because i'm an hiv positive but it was just a joke it is actually a mefenamic acid because i had a toothache that time, then after when we went in our own houses i texted him straight to the point "are you an hiv positive? im just curious because it is my 1st time to have unprotected sex please be honest" his reply was "hindi ah. grabe ka naman magisip" then i didn't think of it anymore. Few days before the month ends i broke up with him due to some childish issues. then it all started here...... i was the one who broke up with him but i'm the one who's badly affected, due to "depression" (i think) i lost my appetite and got myself wet because it was raining that time i didn't took a bath for 2days because of that break-up. then when i woke up i had sore throat and fever, the fever lasted for 3days but the sore throat was 4-5days i think, its hard to swallow solid food that's why the only thing that's in my stomach was liquid like juice and softdrinks for 2-3days before i started to eat. i also had a rashes, at first it was like 5-7 spots scattered in my face and as the days pass it multiplied like i don't know how many are they, there are some in my arms, back, chest and neck it wore off after like a month. those illness occur at the same time. i tried to self medicate for my sore throat but my fault was i took the medicine that has a side effect and taking it without eating and ended up having a heartburn for a month after the sore throat. then i became paranoid, what if those are the symptoms of hiv? i googled it and those tears started to flow from my eyes because i had some of those symptoms. i actually lost a lot of weight that time, and now i only gained like only 10% of the weight that i lost, anyway last feb 2013 consulted this to a doctor and his assessment was 80%negative and 20% positive(because of my doubt and kapraningan daw) he told me to get tested but i insisted.

i am really doubting with my ex but i cant accuse him. i noticed that he doesn't have any vices although he drinks but only occasional he always sleep early and that's all i know in his lifestyle. i am so paranoid about this.

he is the last person i had sex, no sexual intercourse happened with someone stranger because i have to be cautious even if it is too late to be.
what if i am positive? i'm still not ready to give-up my vices, and i am bound to lose some of my friends because of that. i don't know how will i'm going to live my life if i am infected. i am also afraid to turn my parents down. that unprotected sex only happened one time and i was hoping that if i ever get tested, negative would be the result.

doobidoo (name changed upon sender's request)



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hug to you man. such a brave person you are to embrace positivity in life.

I am honestly indifferent with HIV positive but I am in the process of educating myself about it.

I am so paranoid for the past month that I can't even imagine my life being infected. I am glad I'm negative.

I'm so active for the past six months as well but I'm controlling it now. maybe the only difference between us is that I am always protected.

in my entire sex life, four times I got paranoid because of unsafe sex. only this time I told myself never to engage in such.

anyways! may the good force give you strength to face this big step of your life.

and I can't stay thumbs up but continuously radiate the good "positivity" you're bringing to our community.

IamErald

What Happens During HIV Testing?

I got tested by an organization called the Love Yourself, they are a group commited to HIV education and prevention in the Philippines, streamlining HIV and removing the stigma attached to it. Many people, aside from being afraid of the HIV testing result, are also afraid to get tested because they don't know what happens during testing. Let me tell you the steps:

• Pre-test Counseling - They will simply talk to you and inform you things about HIV, the objective of this is to provide basic knowledge about HIV/AIDS. While discussing, the counselor will also ask a few questions to assess the risks of the person in terms of HIV/AIDS

• HIV Testing - They use the Rapid testing which is just as accurate as EIA. They will take your blood and this is administered by a medical technologist who is well trained and is HIV proficient.

• Post-Test Counseling- the client together with the counselor will discuss the result of the test in a confidential manner. Regardless of the result, they will always be ready to talk to the client about  behavioral changes. If ever the result is positive, they will help you and tell you the next steps.

It is very important to know your HIV status, we can only determine that by testing and not by observing your body.

One more thing...

I was chatting with a guy on PR when I finally realised the most important thing that the people are scared of thats why they don't wanna get tested...

its not because maybe their friends might find out he got tested
its not because they are worried that the needles are unsanitary
its not because they might get judgemental looks in the clinic while being tested


It is because they are scared that the result might be HIV+

Again, the only way for you to know your HIV status is not by observing your body and the sensations you feel inside it, but by getting the HIV test.

Check out the Testing Centers tab here in my blog to see the list of FREE, SANITARY & CONFIDENTIAL HIV testing centers near you.

My Symptoms

A lot of people have been asking me about  the symptoms that I have felt before realizing that I am HIV positive. 

To be honest, the way HIV show its symptoms actually depends from person to person, for example, I was operated for appendicitis, and had cases of soar throat, fever, headache, and colds, well that's just me. Other people might experience a combination of these, or much worse like cancer, tubercolosis, pneumonia etc. 

My partner however had endless cases of cold soars around his lips, toungue and gums, he also experienced coughing for two weeks and had diarrhea.

Symptoms depends on how tough your immune system is.

The best way to know your HIV status is not by observing your body but by getting the HIV test asap.

I Think I know Why You Are Scared To Get Tested

One of the greatest problems that we are facing right now when it comes to HIV (aside from lack of funds) is the stigma among gay people. It is when PLWHIV experiences maltreatment, prejudice, abuse, negative attitude in the community, church, education settings, even in hospitals and the worse of all, by their own family.

It exists not just in the Philippines but worldwide. This is why too many people are afraid to get tested for HIV because they are afraid, therefore helping the virus become the silent killer and advance to AIDS.

The reason why there are stigma are as follow:

• HIV/AIDS is a life-threatening disease, and therefore people react to it in strong ways.
• HIV infection is associated with behaviours (such as homosexuality, drug addiction, prostitution or promiscuity) that are already stigmatised in many societies.
• Most people become infected with HIV through sex, which often carries moral baggage.
• There is a lot of inaccurate information about how HIV is transmitted, creating irrational behaviour and misperceptions of personal risk.
• HIV infection is often thought to be the result of personal irresponsibility.
• Religious or moral beliefs lead some people to believe that being infected with HIV is the result of moral fault (such as promiscuity or 'deviant sex') that deserves to be punished.
• The effects of antiretroviral therapy on people’s physical appearance can result in forced disclosure and discrimination based on appearance.

We can fight Stigma. Yes we do need laws and policies for that, but it starts with the courage to speak out, with openness. We need more people who are unafraid to talk about HIV. So yes it is okay to ask question about it.


Source: http://www.avert.org/

Have Yourself Tested

I hope I can help other poeple by spreading the information about HIV. I encourage everyone to get tested for HIV. It is very important to know your HIV status. the tests are free as well as the medication

I am reaching out to those who are scared to get tested because of the stigma:

If you think you want to get tested but cannot muster the courage, and if you think that you are positive, at least do these;

1. from this point forward, if you think you are positive, abstain from sex or use condoms ALL the time
2. stay healthy, eat yogurt, take multivitamins, excercise, have enough sleep, avoid stress
3. quit drinking alcohol, smoking and drugs if applicable
4. have yourself tested once you get the chance.

Rest assured that those testing sites will treat you with discretion and respect... Kung sa tingin mo positive ka at least maaga pa lang alam mo na para ma maintain mo na yung immune system mo, at para na rin hindi pa ito kumalat. And consider it as God's blessing kung negative ka

How I Got The Desease

Ok so there are a lot of people asking me in Planet Romeo why i got HIV if me and my partner are both practicing safe sex. My fingers are starting to hurt typing the answer to each and every person :) so here you go:

Both of us have been sexually active even before we met each other. During the past year that we have been together, we have practiced safe sex, but people make mistakes. Maybe it was transmitted during oral sex, maybe during rimming, there's a lot of factors. Point is, it doesn't matter who infected who, because we made a pact before we took the test that no matter what the result is, we would still be together.

Cure, Immune System and ARV's

Walang pang gamot na makakapag papa galing sa HIV

Pero

Pag alam mong HIV positive ka o nagdududang positive ka, try to stay healthy para hindi bumaba ang immune system mo.

eat yogurt, fruits, vegetables and meat
exercise regularly, or go to the gym
avoid stress
have enough sleep
quit smoking, drinking, drugs if applicable


Kung talagang mababa na ang immune system mo, (search online about cd4 counts) they will give you free ARV's or yung tinatawag nating Anti Retro-Viral Drugs

ARV's ang masasabi nating pinakamalapit na cure na meron tayo ngayon sa HIV

The moment na nag simula kang inumin ito, hindi mo na ito pwedeng itigil hangga't nabubuhay ka

Bakit?

Dahil ang ginagawa ng gamot na ito ay pinapatulog nya ang virus para hindi ito patuloy na makasira sa iyong immune system.

Kaya the moment na itigil mo ang pag inom nito, magigising ang virus at magiging immune ito sa gamot mo

Tali Sharot: The optimism bias

This is how people should think about HIV.

HIV epidemic looming in Philippines

The ABC's of HIV

There are 3 ways of preventing HIV from entering your body

• Abstinence (not engaging in sex, or delaying first sex)
• Being SAFER, by being FAITHFUL to one's partner or reducing the number of sexual partners
• CORRECT and CONSISTENT use of condoms

We can still live our desired lifestyle as gay people... Kelangan lang po natin talagang mag ingat